Different children take different approaches to managing the college application process

application processHaving been through the college application process three times, one would think that I would be able to do the fourth child without any hassles. Not true. Each child has their own method of applying and unfortunately, I had to find a way to adapt.

My first child needed constant needling. When her applications were completed, her essays were beautifully written and the application was done to perfection.

My second child required little assistance. He met with his high school counselor and determined what schools were the “safe” schools and which would be the “reach” schools. He completed the applications without difficulty, made a list of the colleges that he applied to and we waited for his acceptance letters.

My third child was very similar to the second one. Both of those children attended the same school, so I was very familiar with the process, the counselors and deadlines.

My fourth child, a girl, has made this process quite challenging. I have never been so scattered with information than ever before. She has applied to approximately 10 schools. For the most part she has gotten her required documentation in on time such as SAT scores, high school transcripts, recommendations and essays. Where she has been lacking is her inability to express to us exactly which colleges she has applied to and any special requirements that may be needed. Rather than discuss the schools she is applying to with a team approach, we often hear about a new school that she is applying to only by way of a problem. For example, no SAT scores were submitted. I thought this process would be as similar as my previous experiences, but I was wrong. I should never assume anything! Although she had done the necessary paperwork, her organization skills were weak. I tried sharing with her experiences from her siblings and some of my own to help her organize her applications.

This table was a wonderful addition. We refer to it constantly and now that the application process is complete, all we have to do is wait for the acceptance letters. Every child is different and mine was no exception. I should have had the foresight to realize that she had never been through anything like this before. Although her siblings had, she had not. Developing a plan of action that was individualized enabled us to transition through the process more smoothly.


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